SHRINKHOL

Shuru ta sei bahu diner ebaong ajj o ta bahaltabiloyote ta chole asche. Adimota katiye manus apatoto savyo hoyeche bote,kintu sei barbarata ,nrisangsota ki sotyi katiye uthte pereche? Garar jaygay dhongsoi hochhe ki bar bar? Purakaler manus prokritir durjog ke joy koreche,poshur sathe loreche kintu bartaman er samaj er modhye shrenigoto hanahani k bad dewar por oo biporit linger proti atyachar tatha durbal (sharirik vabe tulonamulak durbal)er upor sabal er atyachar khub ii nirmom vabe & niishobde chole asche. Aboshyo ae tathyer noyitikota sobai sikar korleo sansatan panthira kichutei tar bivisikamoy diktir kotha bichar koren na. Srirtikarta manus  namok jibtike sristi korar por tar duti i rup diyechen, ekti ‘purus’ o ekti holo ‘naari’ – ja eke oporke chara nobo  sristi somponno hote pare na. Athocho sampurna vabe ek poorer proti nirvorshil  ae somproday er modhye eto bivotso narokiyota. Ajj Jodi ae dui somproday er modhye sampurna bived sristi hoye jay tahole r prithibir aagami bole kichu thakbe na.. Agami nam dite gele vobisyot projonmo chai, r ta ase sustho sabhabik duti biporit linger somporke .Adam & Eve er modhye Jodi sotyi sei somoy charom Ashanti ba bived thakto tahole hoyto ajker patay ae akhhor guli fotabar keu thakto na. Je niyome purus santan jonmo hoy ,thik sei ek ii niyome nari santan er oo jonmo hoy. Tahole keno ae nirmomota?

Shikhhar aloy manuser ae nrisongsota kono sobhyo somaje kono somoy I sikarjo noy. Kintu sei aadikal thekei amra dekhe aschi narider upor atyachar r nirmomota. Kobi gurur kothay “ narike apon vagyo joy koribar  ,nahi dibe adhikar ,hey Bidhata” . Narira kono somoy commodity hisebe, kokhono ba shtru pokher dhal hoye, kokhono biggapon er muul charitre, songsar er jabotiyo kaj ee, ghor e baiye sob samle baccha prosob korar jontrona theke shuru kore tar lalon palon, banglar choto parda theke shuru kore Hollywood er pop star hoye dapache meyera. Athocho choto theke meyedei sei ekta jinis ii shekhano hoy “how to adjust……. Adjust with everything” , kothay bole  “ A woman is not born , she is made” Choto theke aj oo protyonto gram ee tader boja man ahoy, Balyo bibaho theke shuru kore Satidaho Prothar moto  joghonyo sob achar kore tader jibon nosto kora hoy. Ajj oo uttor Bharoter anek anek protyonto gram ee nari shunyo gram pawa jay., Nabajatok konya holei anek somoy take hatya korar chesta kora hoy ebong take kono somoy jigges kora hoy na “tar ki ichhe
“. Sadhin desher nagorik holeo tar hat pa badha. Bartaman ee madhyabitto ,uchhabitto, nimnobitte  chele meyeder ek ii rokom shikha peleo tara ki sotyi sadhin?? School ,college, rasta ghat, Office ,train , bus, emon ki  bibaho parobarti jibon eo tara vison vabe paradhin, ebong take bichar korar jonyo anek chokh takiye ache. Din e rat ee dharsan too jol bhat hoye dariyeche, amader somaj ee , bibaho purbabarti jibon e bari theke je sneho valobasa tara pay hothat kore bibaho porobarti jibon ee sob kichu kemon paribartan hoye jay. Ae jibon ee shuru hoy Adjustment er lorai, shasur barir protyek I lok er stahe adjustment korte korte kokhon jeno se nijei nijer sathe adjust korte shuru kore dey. Live in relationship er jug eo koto badhu je rat katay balishe much guje kede tar hiseb mela day. Kintu porer din sokale take math theke ana taja sabji tar motoi tatka thakte hoy. Nijer stri anyer santan bole Domestic Violence sabhabik kintu siyo sontan er upor jokhon eti hoy tokhon sei sob purus pita ra kichuta holeo ta bojen. Marriage is a legal prostitution . r tai eta dekha hoy na meyeder jibonadorshe koto ta garom jol dhala holo, proti muhurte koto nirob adjustment tader korte hoy,koto swopner pora gondho. Ekti meye jokhon seje guje eye brow ba waxing er jontrona sojyo kore tar priyo purustir chokhe sob theke priyo hoye other jonyo kintu anek somoy biporit linger udasinota sei nari ke sharirik   menopause asar agei manosik menopause (udasin manosikota) er  dike dhire dhire thele dey. Abar prokritir niyom e howa bastu tir chardin meye ra naki apobitro.Bibahito jibone  purs songi ti temon kono boibahik chinho bahon na korleo amader somaje meyeder ta bahon korte hoy. Ekti purus mukto bihonger moto ghure beray, ichhe  hole sujog pele vir bus e dariye thaka jubotir cleavage ba dariye thaka boudir poshat desh chuye daray. Ae purus ra jokhon jubok thake tokhon heroine theke shuru kore barir ji ke niyeo nongra alochona korte pare ebong r oo kichu tabe eta vabe na je se karor bon , stri ba maa hate pare. Abar erai bibahito hole nijer stri ke jotota beshi somvob poshak poriye  alap koray ebong porichito byakti der stri der chara anyo mahila der blouse er shape ba figure niye kotha bolte mukhe badhe na.

Meyera meyeder shatru ( anek khetre). Ekti meye tar purius byaktitir samne special hoye other jonyo anyo meyer sathe EGO er thanda lorai e lipto hoy., tara eta boje na je cheleder sthula chinta vabna kono din I tader ved korte parbe na. ‘Taliban’ ki ‘Khap Panchayet” kothao meyeder poshak niye kothao ba tader beronor  bitorko ebong tader jatota poshu sulav achoron kore bedhe rakha jay ajker 3g somaj kpore asche. Hoyto purus ram one mone jane ajker ae nari shokti ke damon na korte parle ae purtantrik somaj er asur domon e beshi deri nei. Meyeder anuvuti probonotar jonyo somoy ebong jayga bishese tader sojyo shokti je koto bere jay ta kono sukho vabna chara boja kothin. Apni ii bolun na,” Borkha “ pora ki somichin? Ae sundar prithibi ke abolokon korte Jodi pardar aral theke asposto dekhte hoy tahole tar ki sotyi jothartota mele? “Protidin 23 jon meye mara jache , er modhye Pone er chap e atyo hatya ke dhora hoy ni.40% grihobodhu paribarik hingser sikar holeo matro0.03% polish e avijog janay94.4% charge sheet holeo matro 20% er shasti hoy, baki 80% ke kono na kono rokom vabe adjust korte bola hoy” Bigoto  du ek bachor ee je pariman meyeder sur akha niye proshno utheche taa ki juktijukto noy? Assam er video footage ba Sacha ka samne dekhe  khelte khelte bou er golar nail kete khun, Meye jonmo dewar jonyo khun, pan dite na paray Stri ke prosrab khawano, din ee rat ee meyeder upor ae akothyo nirjaton er temon kono official record nei. Bartaman ee samo shikhhay shikhito hoyeo keno ektoii meyekei sob somoy compromise korte hoy? Stri celebrity hole take anek somoy sei lime light theke sore asar kotha bola hoy.  Kon somoy sontan dharon korbe ekti meye taa ekti sami stri er milito vabna,  tate  anyo tritiyo sob byakti gone er hastokhep na thakai valo. Sasuri namok manus gon nije bouthak kalin je sob atayachar pan taa joma kore rakhen nijer cheler bou er jonyo ebong taa cyclic order ee chalet thake r tai too  bangle channel theke shuru kore hindi serial ee sasuri bou er samporkoi trp barache.Je sob sami ra tadewr stri der ichhe ke pradhanyo den tate sei narii der mo nee je somman ebong progaro valobasar jonmo hoy ta sotyi durlav. Achha kono stri Jodi tar samir kotha shona kartabyo manen tahole sami ra tader stri der kotha shunle Vera ba Back bone less keno bola hoy?  Maje majei Nari bidroher jolonto udhaharon amra pai kintu tateo falaprasu holeo somota aseni ajker somajeo.

Amader desh 65 bochorr sadhin holeo ,Uchhabitto ki nimnobitto sob shreni tei meyeder surokhar avab , tader ichhedana thakleo taa sadhinota pay na. Bidhoba hole sada share pora ebong niramis khawa badhyotamulak hoy, kono bipotnik er emon kichu badha ache bole amar jana nei.

Purusera ajj kothao na kothao surokhito noy, tara jane meyera ektu jayga pelei Dashovuja hate paren.Asur domone tara je biroto thakbe na agami vobisyot ii ta nirdharon korbe. Bohu bohu bochor dhore meyeder upor ae akothyo atyachar er hiseb Prokriti ba Vogoban Ba anypo kono shokti ekdin nebei. Somoy bodlabe, meyera aj rannaghor chere anyo groho abdhi pari dichhe,tara ja pare purus rat a pare na. Santan jonmo dewar moto  kothin ebong guruto purna kaj meyerai kore. Sob meyeder modhyei shiray,hridoy e,sritite ba shorirer kothao ektu ba anek aagun jome ache,. Je sob atyachari purus somproday meyeder durbal mone koren tader shatarko barta….. Somoy bodlabe, Dukho ebong jontronar biij vitore supto aboshtay royeche. proti atyachar er protishodh tarai nebe.Nari ke valobasun , morjada din, tara garte jane, surakha ba shantir niir pelei tara apnar ba apnader moto udasin byakti der jibon e ek anyo chondo – matra- rong ante pare. R na hoyto tader chokher tolar kalite moni theke ber hawa agun samasto purus somproday ke ghennar chokhe dekhbe , asomman korbe. Kono sobhyotai ghennar upor tike thakte pare na. Ae sundar sristi samonjosyo hiin hoye jabe, dhongsho hoye jabe.